Safety Planning - Create a Plan

Questions to consider when planning for my safety and the safety of my child/children:

  • What can I do before a violent incident?
  • What can I do during a violent incident?
  • Is my risk higher because my separation is recent? (Within the past 6 months?)
  • Where can I go for basic safety needs like food and shelter?
  • How can I move around my neighbourhood safely?
  • If I am a homeless woman, check what resources can I use to increase my safety?
  • If I use substances, can I use them in moderation or abstain in order to increase my safety?
  • What are my safety risks if I am involved in the court system and how can I address them?
  • Have I included caring for my emotional well being in my safety plan?
  • Do I have a specific safety plan for my child/children?
  • Do my children know what to do before a violent incident? During a violent incident?
  • Do I have specific risks because I
    • live in a rural area
    • have a disability
    • am a lesbian
    • am an immigrant woman or a newcomer?
  • How can I address these specific risks?

If a woman chooses to stay in the relationship with an abuser you may want to suggest that she:

  • seek support through the local shelter and/or other community counselling services
  • have an emergency plan in place should she need to leave
  • safety plan with children so that they can be safe during a violent situation
  • be aware of other resources for abused women
  • keep purse/wallet, keys and money in a convenient location so that she can locate them easily if she needs to leave quickly
  • be prepared to contact Police at 911 if she is not feeling safe

Above all, the most important thing for the woman to remember is that her safety and the safety of her children are the top priority.